Maybe Carl Jung was right when he said, “There is no such thing as a pure introvert or extrovert. Such a person would be in the lunatic asylum.”
Last year, a study on human spatial behavior was published by the Journal of Cross-Cultural Psychology describing how different cultures around the world manage what most call personal bubble space. The fact that there is even a study on this tells us how fickle we’ve become. It is interesting to observe how others manage their invisible circle – those they let in closer and those they distance themselves from.
One of my sayings is “If you come any closer, I’ll be forced to talk to you.”
In thinking more about this topic, it occurred to me that the real story is how we engage others and how we make them feel in our presence. A safe environment for a customer or colleague to share feedback has more value than me trying to manage my introverted tendencies. While too much exuberance on my part can have the opposite or less desired effect.
Personal bubble space is more about EQ (self-awareness) than it is about who I let in or out. It’s more about who lets me in or out, therefore the onus is on me to be engaging and interested.
Think about what your body language or even your behaviors are communicating to others as it relates to how approachable you really are.