Just read the black part

Managing successful relationships in business requires that certain principles are employed. Principles like patience, empathy, sense of urgency and taking people at their word or said another way, giving others the benefit of the doubt.

We have the tendency to read into things and we often learn that we were wrong about a person or situation. Of course, there are many times when we’re right too but we’ve all had the experience of being wrong or misjudging a situation.

“Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask, ‘What else could this mean?’”  – Shannon L. Alder

Years ago, one of my mentors in business observed me misjudging a couple of different situations. One afternoon, we ended up having a conversation about that and he said something that has stuck with me ever since – “when you read a page just read the black part”. It was funny and still is, but it’s also so simple that it’s profound and causes you to pause and consider just how you might be viewing a particular person or circumstance. The bottom line is that we usually don’t have all the facts and too often we’re making them up in our own head.


Who or what are you possibly misjudging or misunderstanding at the moment? What steps can you take to remedy that?

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